It Takes Two to Make a quarrel.

WALTER Trobisch once said,
“When a couple comes to me
and wants to get married,
I always ask them if they have
once had a real quarrel not just
a casual difference of opinion but a real fight.

“Many times they will say:
‘Oh no! Pastor, we love each other.’
“Then I tell them:
‘Quarrel first and then I will marry you.’
“Then the point is, of course, not quarreling,
but the ability to be reconciled to each other.

This ability must be trained and tested
before marriage. Not sex, but rather
this quarrel test, is as I see it,
a required premarital experience.

“The question is, therefore:
are we able to forgive each
other and to give in to each other?”

Harsh words and argument
often involve an eruption of long-harbored bitterness.
We may not be able to control
all the factors that lead to hurt feelings,
but we each can keep bitterness
from growing in our hearts.

If an issue warrants discussion,
discuss it the very day the issue arises.
If you don’t act upon a hurt by the day’s end,
consider the issue past.
Burn the bridges of that hurt and don’t look back on it