Holding Your Man

Our ability to become emotionally involved
with other and to be vulnerable to them
directly related to our experiences
of having been stroked, caressed and cuddled
in our lives. We learn security
from warmth of being held close.

Before both, a baby is enveloped
in the soft warm embrace of the womb.
After birth, the child who is left
untouched and uncuddled
will form a bond with anything given to touch,
such as stuffed toy. If all human tactile
experience is denied, the baby will eventually die.

Our need for touch continues
throughout our lifetime.
In fact, our body chemistry
actually changes when we are physically
close to another person.

When a person is touched,
the amount of hemoglobin in the blood
which carries oxygen and helps prevent
diseases and speed recovery from illness
increase significantly.

In one animal study,
rabbits that were held close and stroked
often developed less hardening of the arteries
than stroked, unhugged rabbits!

If you are uncomfortable
with intimacy or close contact,
you can learn to become comfortable.
It will require effort, but the results will be worth it!
The best way to hold a man is in your arms.